Interference Is Not You
Insight
The pattern that keeps repeating is not a character flaw — it is interference: a familiar loop of thought, feeling and response that runs because it has never been interrupted.
Why it works
Separating yourself from the interference changes the conversation from "what's wrong with me" to "what is happening here". Curiosity interrupts patterns; judgement reinforces them.
Practical takeaway
Next time the familiar pattern appears, name it out loud: "There's the pattern." Notice what shifts when it becomes something you're observing rather than something you are.
Good question to ask someone
Which pattern in your life would you describe differently if you saw it as interference rather than identity?